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December 07-2017

Respected Sir,

My daughter-in-law is Telangana State Govt.employee (Agriculture Officer) since last 4 yrs after getting married my son 5 years back. My son is working in Andhra (Senior Electrical Engineer) in a private firm. My daughter-in-law is slightly on higher pay and positionwise than my son. She is proudy of her job, adamant attitude, prefers to stay with her parents and avoids in-laws (means me and my wife) (avoids us to come to her place and she also avoids going to in-laws area). Her attitude is rude and proudy with husband and also in-laws. My son is too soft and too kind and also god fearing.

Parents took her into their grip as they need her shelter because father retired from bank manager’s job and their other 2 daughters are mentally not that much matured and they are twins. Both sisters of my daughter-in-law are married but due to their mental problems, husbands of both sisters do not keep good relation with them. Now both sisters, my daughter-in-law and her parents are in one apartment in Hyderabad. The house rent and entire expenditure of her family will be paid by my daughter-in-law though parents are sound financially. My daughter-in-law’s elder brother is Sales Manager working in Bangalore. Either he or his wife never cares this family. Wife stays away from in-laws because she also doen’t like husband’s family members.

Mother of my daughter-in-law also has same attitude of my daughter-in-law and she does not respect her husband and even does not take care needs of his food. Like my daughter-in-law her mother also maintains selfish life by thinking that she does not share any movement of family, does not tell her husband if she goes out of house or out of city for any function or shopping etc. Same habits came to my daughter-in-law also. My daughter-in-law never shares her husband about her salary and during 4 years, she has not spent even single rupee for in-laws.

We and our son do not like such type of personality in our family as we feel surprised with such attitude and culture of that family. We want our daughter-in-law to stay away from her parents and to give importance to in-laws and husband rather than her family. Our son does not want to go to her place under these circumstances and stays in Andhra where he is working. If he calls his wife, she replies in one word answer proudly but she never calls husband. Because of all these, our son is away from that place since last 5 months. Once he fell too sick but she never enquired about his health. My son has 3 years daughter staying with her mother. When daughter was one year old, mentally retarded sister of my daughter in law took her to terrace of house in the 2nd floor and dropped down her accidentally to ground floor. That time my grand daughter with very difficulty recovered and even about to die. Even after 2 years of incident and after prolonged treatment even now she does not walk freely and still physiotherapy treatment is going on.

We are under dilemma as we don’t (myself, my wife and my son) like daughter-in-law but can’t proceed legally as we are scared of legal difficulties we may face though the mistake is entirely of my daughter-in-law.

They are silent because they don’t give any importance for husband in their family and can maintain days without any problem. But we can’t bear this.

Now please let me know if they or we proceed asking for divorce, will we face losing our property if they demand and will we face police custody even fault is theirs? If they demand our full house and property, we will have to give them without any justice?

Please let us know. We are Muslims and this marriage was done under KAZI’s Nikah formalities (arranged marriage).

Yours faithfully,

Ahmed Ali
Too disturbed father of innocent son
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:( Although talaak by observing sharia law may be helpful in your son's case, but it would be better to make it convenient for mutual consent divorce through court of law. Avoiding any bitterness between the two families may prove harmful very badly only to the interests of your family due to the family laws being mostly in favour of the ladies.

Otherwise, if she happens to cause mental torture or harassment to your wife or daughters, the law on domestic violence can equally be helpful to the lady memberts of your family, as any of them can also file a case of domestic violence on your daughter in law also,
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Thank you for your appreciation and information that you have been relaxed with my advice.

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You must have heard, law is like a blind lady having her eyes closed with blck strip tied on the eyes. It has to be moved to right direction by the right people for seeking its help.

To move her to right direction, you may better get help of some right type of knowledgeable local lawyer making him understand well about your plight.

Since she is well placed in service as compared to your son, except dowry allegation/ items, she is not likely to ask for maintenance from your son.
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Thank you for your reply sir. But is it appropriate to favor law in favor of those who create problems? My daughter-in-law has become problem for my son and our entire family though she has not stayed with us during these 5 years not even more than one week (that too not continuously)?

Is it true that taking into consideration the advantage of law being taken by wives by troubling husband and his family just for the sake of claiming huge amount, some changes have been done in the law which I heard. Is it true?

I am very much relaxed with your 2nd paragraph that even my wife can lodge a complaint against my daughter-in-law that she is torturing our entire family.

Please clarify about points as to whether they can claim huge amount by giving false complaint? Also, whether court gives verdict to pay whatever she claims, even our entire property? If we don't keep any property in the name of my son, then also we will have to pay?

Please clarify.

Yours faithfully,


Ahmed Ali
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